“Shadow, this is Kitty Litter.  I just got your message.  I’m sorry I have been busy.  I had a feeling you were getting squirrely.  Please call me back,” said Kitty Litter on the voice mail left for Shadow. Shadow listened to the voice message.  She hung up the phone feeling annoyed.  Now, she thought, I need to call her back and tell her I’m not comfortable with how she is sponsoring me   “Damn,” said Shadow aloud. 

Shadow ran the conversation over and over in her head.”Remember to stay with I statements, she told herself aloud as she dialed back Kitty Litter. “Hi, Kitty Litter, this is Shadow returning your call,” said Shadow nervously over the phone. “Hi, Shadow.  You mentioned in your voice mail that you needed to talk to me about your concerns you have about skipping steps. Please let me know the concerns,” said Kitty Litter.   “I’m not comfortable that we are skipping steps 6-8 and then moving on to step 9 directly.  I feel I need to go over steps 6-8 with my sponsor.  I also don’t like the fact we have never met in person.  The Zoom meetings don’t work for me. Why are we skipping steps, said Shadow. “You need to trust me. This is how I was taken through the steps.  From step 9, we will get your character defects.  Trust me, this system work.  It has worked for my sponsor and his sponsor,”’ said Kitty Litter. “I have step eight left to read.  I haven’t been reading because I felt uncomfortable with skipping the steps. I guess I will trust you and finish step 8 tonight and start my harm’s list tomorrow even though it doesn’t feel comfortable to me. “Okay, you follow through with what you said and call me tomorrow if you have any questions. I am here for you.  Call me any time.  I will get back to you,” said Kitty Litter. “Okay, thank you.  I’ll let you go now,” said Shadow.  “Goodbye, Sadow,” said Kitty Litter.  “Goodbye,” said Shadow.  As Shadow hung up the phone, she still felt uncertain about taking the steps in this way, but she told herself she will give it a go…